9 Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life

On that day I discovered four things that changed my life. They were the same four things that I have heard other people affirm countless times:
1. God is there to help us if we ask him.
2. He not only helps us directly, he gives us others to help as well.
3. There are truths and principles, ways as we have called them, that are the ways he designed life to work.
4. As we practice those ways, good things are given.

The only way people can be controlling is for you to make them that way by doing what they want. Here is what happens: They get angry, or use guilt, or get pushy, and you give in. Then you come here and describe them as controlling. In reality, if you did not do what they wanted, you could not describe them as controlling, could you? If you say no to them and do not do what they are demanding, then they have no control of you. So you cannot say they are controlling at all; they are in control of nothing. They are just frustrated as they try to get control of you. You have converted them from being controlling to being frustrated simply by not giving in to their demands. It is that simple.”

He said, ‘Do not rescue an angry man, lest you have to do it again tomorrow’ (Proverbs 19:19, my paraphrase). In other words, if you give in once to her anger, get ready to do it again the next time you say no.”