Shirley Cole

Quick tip: choosing to treat the negative people around you with love and kindness doesn’t mean that you have to allow yourself to be walked over. Distance is necessary for any relationship, and if someone is having a negative effect on you, you owe it to yourself and your own happiness to be able and prepared to put a bit of distance between them and you. Be brave and be kind, and don’t let people take you away from your resolution to be kind, loving, and to act with integrity, because those things come from inside, not from what other people observe. You don’t need anyone else’s permission or validation to be happy within yourself.

Quick tip: choosing to treat the negative people around you with love and kindness doesn’t mean that you have to allow yourself to be walked over. Distance is necessary for any relationship, and if someone is having a negative effect on you, you owe it to yourself and your own happiness to be able and prepared to put a bit of distance between them and you. Be brave and be kind, and don’t let people take you away from your resolution to be kind, loving, and to act with integrity, because those things come from inside, not from what other people observe. You don’t need anyone else’s permission or validation to be happy within yourself.

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Seek to understand, rather than agree - When you’re the receiver, you have a goal, too.

the language understood by the receiver - Speak in a way that is tailored to your audience.

Stay focused on your task - Whatever your

role is in the process of communication at a given time, you should aim to accomplish the goals of that role as well as possible.

Accept compliments into your chest - Rather than pushing away with your arms when you receive a compliment, instead try to place your hand on your chest to symbolize accepting it and taking it to heart. This will both make yourself feel better and make the person you’re talking to feel happier and at ease in your

Hold your head up high - Push your chin up to just above level, so that your head is very slightly tilted back. This will serve to elevate your head and help you express a confident and engaging air.