Jerold Kreisman

insistence, before the end of her junior year. She quit school and began working as a receptionist, but her employer recognized her intelligence and promoted her to more responsible jobs

Who she is (and what she does) today determines her status, with little regard to what has come before. She

the pre-borderline child often grows up feeling inauthentic due to various environmental circumstances—suffering physical or sexual abuse or being forced to adopt an adult’s role while still a child or to parent his own sick parent

related migraine headaches. Relief of inner tension may be the most common reason for self-harming.54

Masochism is a prominent characteristic of borderline relationships

Tough Love groups believe that true caring forces the individual to face the consequences of his behaviors rather than protecting him from them.

It is no coincidence that the borderline character who seeks a healthy love relationship more often finds it when he is least desperate for one and more engaged in self-fulfilling activities

Unstable identity stems from inconsistencies in life.

r. A major goal involved establishing constancy—consistent, reliable attitudes and behaviors—toward herself and others.

Avoiding disconnection and isolation is an important goal