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The Big Thing

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We may be too shy to tell other people about our creative goal, so no one even knows to expect something.
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Today we are pressured by social media to present an artificial self, in the form of posts and tweets, YouTube videos, and Instagrams. Some people mold and remold their online selves, the better to receive likes and thumbs-up, tweets, and other forms of approval.
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My present self has a tendency to ask: Why must you create? Why can’t you just be? When I actively avoid working on my Big Thing, food tastes better and movies on the Lifetime channel seem unusually compelling.
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Touched with Fire, Kay
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ld work. She helped me find a position similar to this for reading in bed—one of the great joys of my life.
“Think about the space between the back of your head and the screen,” Lindsay said as I sat in my pillowy throne. “Don’t overfixate your eyes—think of them softening, be careful not to tighten your jaw or your tongue, and think of your legs lengthening,” she said, reiterating some of the general lessons I had learned in my classes with her.
This position was also quite comfortable for writing by hand in a notebook. For writing by hand I could also sit cross-legged with my notebook on two pillows. However, lying on my stomach and propped
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o then I sat up more and Lindsay arranged my pillows behind me in a kind of cradle so my back was fully supported. I put my legs straight out in front of me and two pillows on my legs to serve as a makeshift desk for the laptop. Lindsay instructed me to release my neck back so my head moved forward and up. This made it a little harder to look down as I typed, but I could see that this position
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he body is there to remind us that a Big Thing is not just a mental construct—it is also a physical experience in time. The posture lessons I took brought that home to me, but still, all too often I was seeing writing as merely a means to an end: a published book. I wanted to have written the book, not be writing it.
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Often working on a Big Thing means pursuing meaning over happiness, at least temporarily. Yes, happiness and meaningfulness can overlap, but not always.
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So suppose you have been telling yourself, over and over, I must do my Big Thing. My life won’t be meaningful unless I do it. But many of us don’t take the next steps because of the lure and power of procrastination
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Sometimes people end up in Molitor’s office because they experience a rejection of their Big Thing—say, a publisher turns down a book proposal or a startup fails to attract investors. In that case, they’re letting other people determine the value of their project—a sign that it may be motivated mainly by narcissism. It’s a delicate psychological balance. “You have to believe in yourself, but you can’t take yourself so seriously that you live or die by the rejection or the acceptance,” she said.
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she said. “It makes you feel more connected to the world and you have a reason to keep going. Also, it gives you structure.”
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When you’re working on something outside of yourself, it makes you feel more alive because you’re seeing something concrete happening
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Nancy Molitor, a psychotherapist practicing in Chicago, says many of her patients come to her not because of some outright calamity but because of an unmet creative need that is making them uneasy
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Evil” lazy is a kind of cowardice. Rollo May lays on the guilt trip pretty thick: “If you do not express your own original ideas,” he intones, “if you do not listen to your own being, you will have betrayed yourself. Also you will have betrayed our community in failing to make your contribution to the whole.”
“Good” lazy is the result of an exquisite understanding of the needs of your body and mind. It happens when you know that your body and mind need
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Ongoing commitment is a key feature of a Big Thing
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know that in some ways my age is working against me.
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American psychologist William James (1842–1910)
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launch ourselves with as strong and decided an initiative as possible” toward a new way of behaving. James
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a sharp period of suffering” may be necessary to redirect the force of inertia.
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I have long berated myself for being lazy when it comes to my personal aspirations. I consider myself possessed of “a fine natural indolence,” as Virginia Woolf describes the heroine in The Voyage Out.
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