Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office

Power Talk: Using Language to Build Authority and Influence, by Sarah Myers McGinty.

Deborah Tannen’s book Talking from 9 to 5: Women and Men in the Workplace.

Before asking someone else’s opinion, be certain you really need it. As discussed earlier, asking a question to which you know the answer can diminish your stature.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

Read Alice Miller’s book The Drama of the Gifted Child

If you have been given the feedback that you have a tendency to stare, get into the habit of looking slightly up or to the side when thinking about a response. This creates a break in the eye contact long enough to convey a comfortable pause.

avoids eye contact, it’s usually a sure sign she’s uncomfortable or unsure of herself.

If you accept what they say, you’ve accepted the fait accompli—a French term meaning “an irreversible or predetermined decision.” It’s a technique people use when they don’t want to change their plans.

Workaholism is often an excuse for not having a life.

Keep in mind that the accusations of being too pushy are designed to keep you quiet. They’re ploys to make you feel bad about having an opinion or alternative viewpoint. Holding your tongue only serves to make you frustrated and appear less willing than you really are to speak up for what you believe.