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James Williams

Social Anxiety

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    social anxiety goes deeper than shyness. Social anxiety is the fear of being judged in a negative way by others, while shyness is a feeling of being awkward or tense around others. Both have a root cause of fear - fear of being judged, a fear of saying the wrong things, but they each come from very different parts of the mind
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    Don’t call attention to your shyness, either. First, it sets you up with any new people around you to try and take advantage of you being shy. Broadcasting that you are shy is equivalent to wearing “I’m insecure” on a sandwich board in the middle of Times Square. Calling yourself out gives the expectation that you will say something awkward and the people around you would have an excuse for avoiding you. Second, pointing out that you are shy can lead people to expect that you will say or do something that doesn’t present well with your actual self. Many times, shyness is overwhelming in your mind but not visible on the outside, or, at least, so mild that the new person in your group may never even notice.
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    Watch the self- criticism. As a shy person, you tend to be harder on yourself for not participating more or being as “normal” like your best friend than you would be if you were not shy. This also leads to lower self-esteem and a higher risk of depression. Be mindful of the way you talk to yourself.
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    The old saying “fake it ‘til you make it” is still offered as advice today for a reason. Training your mind to lean into a more positive mindset is made easier when you are already portraying yourself as confident. You already know what it looks like to be confident, and even though you might fake your confidence at first, your brain will become attuned to how you are acting and can move easily into that feeling in a more genuine way
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    That in itself should be a good confidence boost since you have already proved to yourself that you are capable of setting aside your concerns. Once you have something positive to build on, authentic confidence becomes easier to achieve.
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    Practice confidence in yourself and pay attention to how it makes you feel on the inside.
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    A good place to start getting over either shyness or anxiety is being mindful. Staying aware of where you are, what is going on around you, and keeping your focus on the person talking to you will help distract your mind from its anxious thoughts. If the forefront of your mind is staying in the present and actively listening to what your conversation partner is saying, it is easier to keep the conversation going. The bonus here is the person you are talking to will feel like you really are interested in what they have to say.
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    A shy person may experience a slightly elevated heart rate, and some worry about if their hair is in place. Whereas a person with social anxiety experiences sweating, a notable increase in heart rate, a feeling of not being good enough, and a solid fear that everything they say or do will garner a negative reaction. Feelings of shyness generally lessen after a time of being in a social situation; however, a person with social anxiety will not get relief from their fears until the social stimulation is gone.
    A shy person probably comes from a family of at least one or two people that are shy and nervous. Someone suffering social anxiety is running off the memory of frequently overexaggerated-rejection and extreme social awkwardness. Social anxiety is learned, while shyness is a part of someone’s personality.
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    There are also cases of a chemical imbalance in the brain. The chemical in the brain called, serotonin, manages the regulation of moods and emotional reaction. In cases of social anxiety, the production of serotonin in the brain has been found to be either dampened or grossly underproduced. This causes the irrational feelings of nervousness and fear, as well as making it difficult to come out of those feelings without conscious effort
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    These are not feelings that you can just force down. It’s something that you have to work on to retrain your brain to recognize the anxious signals and head off the automatic fear response.
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    The feelings we get of anxiety or shyness in new or stressful situations is set off by what’s called the “fight or flight” response - the intuitive reaction your mind automatically engages when you are faced with scary situations.
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    Biologically speaking, social anxiety was necessary for prehistoric days when living outside of a tribe meant essentially, death. In the civilizations where everyone contributed their skills and were a part of a tribe’s culture for hunting, gathering, and homesteading, being “strange” or “too quiet” meant that a person was often avoided or even cast out of a tribe. Being conscious of one’s thoughts, actions, and words were important in keeping one’s tribe.
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    Shy people tend to get past their social concerns once they become more familiar with their surroundings.
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    Shyness is actually considered a character trait.
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    Social anxiety is the fear of being judged in a negative way by others, while shyness is a feeling of being awkward or tense around others.
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    While there are medications available to treat social anxiety, they are only meant to be temporary solutions, and sometimes there is not a good fit between you and the medication (meaning, it doesn’t work), or the side effects are worse than the ailment the medication is treating
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    social anxiety, and shyness are an inherent part of our genetics
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    strange” or “too quiet” meant that a person was often avoided or even cast out of a tribe
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    Shy people tend to get past their social concerns once they become more familiar with their surroundings
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    They don’t understand how hard it is for you to simply show up to a gathering and keep an expression besides abject fear or unyielding stress on your face. They don’t comprehend how courageous you are just to be out there, facing the fear that makes your mind reflexively try to fight or flee
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