When the angry man is looking for affirmation, he does his little dance, his manipulation, whatever he needs to do in order to impress Susie-Q. Susie, at the same time, looks past the manipulation and likes how she feels. She looks at what he’s giving her rather than how she’s really feeling. She’s empty as well. So she finds somebody who is giving her a sense of attention that makes her feel like she’s okay. So Susie’s getting what she needs from him. He’s being adored by her. And while all couples, healthy couples, have this, the difference is that the two of them are lacking a sense of value of self and self-esteem. They are looking at each other to fill that need. And that’s why there is such extreme connection and enmeshment, as we call it. They both lack the ability to date slowly or carefully. These relationships usually come together very quickly because each party has, in their mind, found the answer to their problems.